Why is a Sikh wedding important to Sikhs?

Answer 1

Loyalty, self-sacrifice, devotion, bravery.

• Vaisakhi is a New Year festival in the Sikh calendar and recalls the institution of the 'Khalsa'. The story originates in 1699, after a long period of Sikh persecution. Guru Gobind Singh, the tenth and last human Guru (the Sikh holy book, the 'Guru Granth Sahib', is considered to be the last Guru), called together all the Sikhs and, as the story shows, instituted a group of five men known as the Khalsa who would be willing to dedicate themselves to God, to defend their faith and to care for the poor and the helpless.
• From this time onwards men and women from as young as 16 or 18 have been initiated into the Khalsa as a sign of their commitment to follow the Sikh way of life.
• On Vaisakhi people gather in Gudwaras (temples) and there is a continuous reading of the Guru Granth Sahib. A new Sikh flag is put in place and the flag pole washed. There are shared meals and celebrations. Very often people are initiated into the Khalsa on this day.

It happened a long time ago, over 300 years. For the Sikhs life was difficult. They had been under attack for many years. There were lots of poor people without anyone to help them.

The Sikh leader was called Guru Gobind Singh. Guru means teacher, and he taught people about God. Guru Gobind Singh decided things had to change, and so, on the spring festival of Vaisakhi, he called the Sikhs to join him. There was a huge crowd, over 20,000 people. Guru Gobind Singh stood outside his tent and called out: 'I need a Sikh who is willing to die for God and for the Guru.'

His words were passed through the crowd. Everyone was amazed. Who was devoted enough to give up their life? Twice more the Guru called out to the crowd and asked the question. Then one man came forward. Guru Gobind Singh took him into his tent. After a while the Guru came out by himself. But in his hand was a sword covered in blood! The crowd gasped. Then the Guru asked again. 'Who is willing to die for God and the Guru?' Surely no one else would come forward.

What about that sword with blood on the blade? But then another man stepped forward and went into the tent with the Guru. Once again the Guru came out of the tent alone, with blood on his sword. Then amazingly, another man stepped forward and went into the tent, and then another. Four brave and devoted men - and each time the Guru stepped out of the tent alone, with his sword in his hand.

Then a fifth man stepped forward and went into the tent with the Guru. How many men must die, the crowd wondered. But this time the Guru came out of the tent, with his sword, and behind him were the five men. They were still alive!

'This was a test,' the Guru explained, 'to see who was brave enough and willing to give up everything to show how much they were devoted to God.' The Guru called the five men the 'Panje Pyare', the beloved ones. They were to become the first members of a group called the Khalsa, which would defend the Sikh faith and care for the poor and helpless, whoever they were and whatever they believed.

Then the Guru made a mixture of sugar and water called 'amrit'. He asked the beloved ones to give him some of the amrit, to show that although he was the Guru; all people were equal in God's eyes. That day amrit was given to people in the crowd who said that they believed in one God, and that all people were equal. They were given new last names too, to show that they now belonged to one big family - women were given the name Kaur, which means princess, and men were given the name Singh, which means lion.

From that time onwards any man or woman, or boy or girl, who shows that they want to follow the Sikh way of life, takes part in a special ceremony which is often celebrated at this time. They, too, join the Khalsa and they make five important promises:

1 To wear five signs or symbols of the faith (see the five K's above).

2 To follow the teachings of the Sikh Gurus and the holy book called the Guru Granth Sahib.

3 To help people in need.

4 To give up alcohol and tobacco and to be faithful to their husbands or wives.

5 To work hard and to give to charity.

Answer 2

For the same reason that a Christian wedding is important to a Christian, a Muslim wedding is important to a Muslim and a Hindi wedding is important to a Hindu! It's to retain the culture and celebrate the union of two souls in a way that is symbolic of previous traditions.