There are three clearly defined Milchemet Mitzvah, required war, (מלחמת מצוות) in the Torah. One, Amalek, "you shall wipe out their name" - Deuteronomy 25:17. Two, the seven nations of Caanan, "you shall not allow any person to live" - Deu 20:16. Third, the nations of Ammon and Moab. Each case has a different set of principles of how to conduct the war, but in all cases it is required that one offer peace on the condition that they keep the seven Noahide laws (Worship one God, don't practice idolitry...) - Rambam, Laws of Kings 5:1. Now, if by Milchemet Chovah you are referring to the Kesef Mishnah 6:1 on splitting the category of Milchemet Mitzvah into two, the clear example would be that of a defensive war. This would be any war where one was attacked by an enemy or where ones peoples were targeted in hostility. Otherwise, the only other category of war would be that of a "permissible war" מלחמת רושות. These are any wars which are not defensive or required by Torah law, mainly for the sake of expanding land, wealth, or prestige. These wars are given a clear set of laws in order to declare them, and a very strict set of rules of engagement (i.e. not harming any none combatants or property).
Chovah = Compulsory Mitzvah e.g. Kriat Shema. Mitzvah can mean voluntary mitzvah e.g. living Ba'aretz according to R' Moshe Feinstein ZaTZaL
Rites of passage
Yes, the boy is called 'a/the bar mitzvah' which translates as 'son of mitzvah'. For a girl, it would be 'a/the bat mitzvah' 'daughter of mitzvah'.
Grammatically, You say B'nai Mitzvah just as you would Bar Mitzvah or Bat Mitzvah.
The plural for a bat mitzvah is a b'nai mitzvah
NO Barmitzvah's are for men. BATmitzvah's are for women
Bat Mitzvah
Bert Metter has written: 'Bar Mitzvah, Bat Mitzvah' -- subject(s): Bar mitzvah, Bat mitzvah, Juvenile literature
A boy has a bar mitzvah, and girl has a bat mitzvah. Bar Mitzvah means 'son of the commandments' and Bat Mitzvah means 'daughter of the commandments', which means they are now responsible for their own spirituality.
Judaism
A mitzvah is a good deed. The plural of mitzvah is mitzvot.
They have Bar Mitzvah ceremonies for boys & Bat Mitzvah ceremonies for girls.