You will need to go to court with legal representation to present your case. The judge will make a binding decision.
preparation see links
The child is one again put up for adoption to a new couple.
Through the courts; you will have to prove you're not the father.
most likely costody goes to another family member.
Absolutely.
have a father in the home.
The relationship with the child's father should be encouraged. If there are school activities for the child, the father should participate. Unless, the child is in serious endangerment when she is with the father.
This can be achieved easily through the use of a Certified Mediator. see link below
No.
no
no
Yes, it's always the non-custodial parent who pay to the parent who have custody. The money have to go to the person who takes care of the child.