The impact of having a narcissistic mother is a lot of confusion, pain, and a lifetime of of soul seeking and healing. From an early age you learn not to trust or depend on your mother, there is no point. You are in a state of fear all the time, even when you reach adulthood, especially if you live close to the narcissist. The fear of another one of her rage attacks, sometimes you can feel it comming, her face turns mean, cold, evel, comments to hurt you, and then mabey after a few days she explodes. Other times it comes when you least expect it and catches you by surprise. So the fear is always there. Another impact, you are never good enough, even if you became the next Pope, you are still not good enough, and your children are never good enough. Your family is torn apart from the lies, playing one sibling off another, making up lies about your brother or sister to make them look bad, always talking about them in a negative way. So you end up wondering who is right and who is wrong in your family. You find your teen years are spent wondering what is normal and what is not, its only when you get into your 20s, when you see other families you relize what is normal. You never want to be around your mother, you spend as much time as you can growing up in other peoples houses. When you grow up, sometimes you end up back in the hands of a narcissist by marrying one, its like, these people just gravitate to you, and you feel comfortable with them, soppose because you know the narcissist so well after growing up with one. You need a lot of time on your own, to think, cause it takes a lot of time to figure out things that happened in your childhood and the reason behind them. It helps if you take a class in psycology and learn about personality disorders, but a lot of kids don't figure out that their parent is a narcissist until they are in their 30s and have lived a little and matured and looked for the answer. Oh I could just go on all day about this but am running out of text.
"Allow?" It isn't the children's responsibility to control their stepfather. Afterall, the stepfather is controlling them. They probably don't know what to do and are trying to understand what is going on.
Yes.
by having all of the schitzels removed
No. Having a child does not emancipate a person.
it made it faster to right then having to dip a pen or feather into an ink well
Narcissists are motivated largely by fear. Being willing to expose them, say no, refuse to mirror them, and having the proof and evidence to back you up helps.
Some do. It depends on how she has the family roles set up and where she's getting her narcissistic supply from.
having or showing an excessive interest in or admiration of oneself or one's physical appearance
Yes. Narcissistic Mothers always do.
Yes of course - but now they are moving towards being narcissistic psychopaths.
The full fledged manifestation of pathological narcissism - the Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) - can be diagnosed in early adolescence at the earliest. It is reversible if treated early on but becomes entrenched in adulthood. A child who has narcissistic traits, a narcissistic personality, or a narcissistic style - does NOT amount to having NPD.
John Steinbeck was devastated by his mother having a stroke and felt guilty for not being there when it happened. He rushed to her bedside and spent time caring for her during her recovery, which had a profound impact on him.
Stay FAR FAR away from them both!
The best way to deal with a narcissistic mother-in-law is to "kill her with kindness." This method works on most people, by the way. Be as nice and polite as you can possibly be but don't engage her more than you absolutely have to. Remain calm and don't feed into her narcissism and neediness.
they make their daugthers by having SEX and the girl drink the girls pee.
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A narcissistic individual is more concerned about serving their own emotional needs. The narcissistic person will take actions to jeopardize both groups and individuals if it fulfills their emotional needs. Narcissists do not consider the needs or outcomes for others in their actions.