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If the relationship ended, he/she would have set the scene for it to end. They fear abandonment but push and pull so much the non-narcissist can not play any longer. He/she will function by simply replacing you. They wont let you 'go' in their heads. If a true narcissist they will absolutely feel that they were / are better than you, and they are charming to a fault (they are able to act that way when it suits!). So it is only a matter of time that they bounce into another relationship They will unceremoniously discard you, and that is a bitter pill to swallow.
If you truly believe that you have been with someone you believe displayed narcissistic traits, you will have put up with all sorts of hellish behaviour to get back what you had in the beginning. You would have seen glimpses of it in between the rages / silent treatment: you would have believed once they had gotten over yet another issue in their life that all would be good.
However, if you are the narcissist, well done you for recognising you've some issues. It may be possible that someone you were with has made you believe that you displayed traits that are narcissistic. The issue here is that if you think you are, chances are you are not. If you are questioningour behaviour, best get some help.
If you have separated from someone you believed had narcissistic traits, please do see someone. Cognitive behavioral therapy helps people who have been in abusive relationships. You are not to blame, but the help does assist you questioning why you would accept such bad behavior and help you find yourself again.
Finally, to answer your question there are many ways that they function if a true narcissist. They will reinvented themselves on all levels. They may change their style, their values, i have heard even their religion. They will put on the charm offensive to become the perfect fit for their next source of supply. They may also become vindictive, manipulative, play the 'victim', but what they do more often t not is to have a scapegoat for their problems. They are never to blame FOR ANYTHING. They will give their version of events that are vastly so very different from how you saw such an event or anyone else for that matter. And they will lie. Because they can not and will not accept any portion of blame. We can all look back a failed relationship and take a portion of blame, unless you are narcissist. All these bad things (ie manipulation, lies, vindictiveness, threat cold-calculated abuse) come when they know that they have lost for good. IF, however, there is an inkling of a way back in (and to their comfort zone!) they will lay on the charm offensive to win you back. Once fallen the relationship will revert back to the status quo where you were unhappy. Is this what you were asking?
I am certainly no expert. But over the last 19 months I have read anything and everything I can to assist my recuperation after a long-term relationship ended with someone who showed every trait of Narcissism. I am a well educated person and by taking such steps by reading as much as I could, I have helped my way through some very tough times and although the tough times are still ongoing, I have educated myself to help ME.
Books that have helped me, and may help you are:
Narcsisstic lovers (Zyan)
Stop Walking on Eggshells
How to deal with manipulative people
And endless internet searches on Narcissism, loads from Sam VANKIN...
Hops this helps x
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Is a Narcissist not able to function after long term relationship?
Sure they are. They just "say" that to make you feel sorry so they can stick around and drain you dry. Get rid of them.
What is the average length of a relationship for a narcissist?
Welll that depends how long this person lives. AS they are always in a relationship with themself
Why does your narcissist tell you he loves you but refuses to give you a commitment?
He loves himself more. Are you sure you want a commitment from a narcissist? He is not ready for a commitment. You need to decide for yourself how long you want to stay in the relationship without a commitment.
Can a Narcissist and psychopath have a lasting relationship?
I am not sure what "meaningful" means - but many narcissists have long term relationships with their sources of supply (not necessarily with other narcissists).
How to turn the tables in a narcissist relationship?
Unfortunately, narcissism is a life long disease. If your partner is clinically narcissistic, there is very little hope of him or her ever changing.
If a man feels close to you and then runs does it have a chance?
If a man runs, he is not afraid of losing you. A man that loves you will not risk ruining the relationship or losing you to another man. A man that is chased may not say around a long time in the relationship.
What type of personality can establish a long term relationship with a narcissist-another narcissist?
No. Two narcissists would not get along in a long term relationship since a narcissist needs to be the smartest and greatest thing going and superior to everyone else. In order to have a "long term relationship" with a narcissist you need to have the personality traits that compliment the narcissist. Your purpose in the narcissist's life would be to supply what they need. That means you need to have the following personality traits:easy to be taken advantage ofinsecure with a poor self imagea poor understanding of realitywilling to constantly feed the narcissist's ego even though your praise would be dishonestwilling to place your own needs aside and concentrate on fulfilling the needs of your narcissistwilling to be treated with disrespect and verbally abused if you have an opinion, give advice when not asked to, or disagreenever, ever criticizewilling to pick up the pieces when they fail and never mention itwilling to join in the delusional, self grandiose world inhabited by your narcissistwilling to ignore public flirting with strangers in your presence, attention getting behavior in public and rudeness in their treatment of you and othersyou need to have a thick skin
Why does your narcissist boyfriend treat everyone else better?
Because the narcissist always has to have someone to kick around. As long as you're available to kick around, he's happy to keep up some sort of relationship. As soon as you stand up on your own two feet,, he starts to look for someone else to kick.
What should you do if you want your soon-to-be ex-Narcissist out of your life but have 1-year-old twins together and what are suggestions for the best relationship with your narcissist?
You have to assess whether this person could be a danger to your children. Would controlled visitation be an option? Otherwise if this person is dangerous, the children are probably better off without any contact. They will be fine as long as you are honest with them as they grow up.
How long does a Narcissist stay in the idealization period of a relationship?
Until a resource for some treatment becomes available. However, they would need to admit they have a problem, be tired of living in that world with a sincere desre to change and then take on the work that's ahead of him/her.
How long will your narcissist girlfriend take to calm down?
I don't think they ever do cam down.
Why do narcissists cheat?
Yes Narcissist cheats. I have read one who satisfies their narcissistic supply with sex is called a Somatic Narcissist. My ex married one-and he is a pathological narcissist as I know I lived it-It is the most insidious emotional abuse one can encounter- A Somatic Narcissist tends to be very promiscuous-she/he disregards her marriage and have multiple affairs just to satisfy their need for narcissist supply -Admiration-power--The Somatic Narcissist will capture you - control you with their sexual seduction and when he/she has you completely in their control her true self will come out-cruel and unemotional-and when you no longer satisfy their narcissistic supply the Somatic Narcissist will leave you as quickly as he/she entered your life-and onto the next-As I understand Somatic Narcissist have many affairs --regardless married or not. Question what happens when one Narcissist marries another Narcissist-it should be interesting to watch
