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a narcissist wants someone to love them as much as they love themselves I think, they might even want to be reassured about this love by setting up seemingly constant and often slightly strange questions about their appearance or personality that they hope will make you compliment them and help them make sense of this love for themselves, if you don't give these compliments or say something mean about their appearance or personality, they may either get confused because "I'm great", or angry/upset because "I'm great"!
they may also want to you to have a good time all the time because they think they're so fantastic that it's impossible to be bored around them. However if you feel you have a similar quality to this narcissistic person then you're likely to keep them for a very long time, especially if this quality is unique.
Basically if you adore this person and want to let them know then that's fine, but bare in mind they think the same about... themselves.
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Why does your narcissist tell you he loves you but refuses to give you a commitment?
He loves himself more. Are you sure you want a commitment from a narcissist? He is not ready for a commitment. You need to decide for yourself how long you want to stay in the relationship without a commitment.
Relationship with narcissist?
Definitely not worth it.
How can you have a relationship with a narcissist without feeling abused?
. You couldn't (improve on last answer, or have a relationship with a Narcissist without feeling abused).You cannot have a relationship with an abuser without feeling abused.
How do you help a narcissist?
The question is help them how? Refer them to counseling, but they don't want to be fixed, though you may want to fix them to be a 'normal' person so you can keep a relationship with them. If you are a lay person and in a relationship with a narcissist, you cannot help them. Just by the nature of your relationship and the pathology of a narcissist, things will get ugly, it will be at your expense and there will be no change in the narcissist. A good therapist will be the one to help a narcissist, but it takes a great deal of work on the part of the narcissist, a commitment to healing, only they don't see themselves as 'broken' or anything wrong with them, so an honest introspective communication with a therapist is rare. It's so hard to understand. Leaving them is best for you though and isn't that sad that that is also the way to help a narcissist, because they are sucking your goodness from you and using it to buoy themselves. So sad.
Is it common that victims will want to cut ties with the narcissist's friends after leaving the relationship?
It's normal and it's the thing to do. By staying in touch with the friends of the narcissist it still links you to the narcissist. Move on and start a new future. What friends? A true narcissist has no real loyal friends. They are known as supply. Those friends who are true to you will "self select" and will make their choice when you break up. However, if they want to maintain contact with the "narcissist" then you need to set them free. It just creates chaos in your life.
Does a narcissist purposely try to hurt you and why?
no. a sadist would want to hurt you. a narcissist would want to be hurt.
What would a narcissist say to one if you tell them that you only want a casual relationship with them?
Most likely they wouldn't want a relationship with you if they couldn't benefit from it whether casual or not. If they feel they can benefit and manipulate you out of something, then the game playing begins. Be aware, they will immediately manipulate ways to get whatever they want and then will disappear after receiving it. Again, narcissist cannot be casual in any setting, they have to be the winners or they want nothing at all. If you are living a decent lifestyle, especially better than theirs, they can not be spectators of another's happiness. If they can damage your happiness, then they would agree to the "casual" relationship. A narcissist always have a game plan. If you are naive in thinking you can have any type of relationship with these people, then you will post another painful question as so many others.
Why would a narcissist want you back if he thinks you cheated on him?
Why would you WANT to go back? Narcissists will make up stuff to blame you with just to get out of the relationship. They NEVER take responsibility. Do NOT go back. Institute NO CONTACT and run!
What is the average length of a relationship for a narcissist?
Welll that depends how long this person lives. AS they are always in a relationship with themself
Who is the best match for a relationship for a narcissist?
someone also obsessed with that person.
Can relationship make you a narcissist?
not so much a narcissist but for sure you will notice in hindsight that you were beginning to act like those morons do.......a co-dependent
What kind of relationship can a narcissist stay in?
A relationship where he rules supreme and the other half feels depressed, devalued, and confused.
