I ASK MYSELF THE SAME QUESTION.... EVEN IF HE DECIDEDS OR SWEARS THAT HE'S GOING TO CHANGE OR THAT IT WON'T HAPPEN ANYMORE THERES ALWAYS GOING TO BE DOUBTS IN YOUR MIND AS TO IF YOU CAN EVER TRUST HIM OR NOT. THINK...WHAT IS HE LYING TO YOU ABOUT, WHATS THE REASON FOR HIS LYING, IS IT THE FIRST TIME AND IS THERE UNDERLYING ISSUES THAT YOU ARE UN AWARE OF.... MOST OF THE TIME MEN FEEL THAT IF THEY CAN LIE AND GET AWAY WITH IT THEN IT BECOMES A WAY OF LIFE TO THEM AND THEY NEVER QUIT. POINT BLANK... IM SURE IT HURTS YOUR FEELINGS AS IT DOES MINE...IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP WORTH THE HURT OF KNOWING THE REST OF YOUR LIFES GOING TO BE LIKE THIS BUT CONTINUE TO GROW ON A STACK OF LIES? Because he's your husband therefore he owns your ass. He husband = He right, he in charge You wife = You wrong, you do as he says Hi, Clearly, you want to trust him otherwise you would not be asking for help. Clearly, you love him enough to want to save your marriage. You are on the right path already because of these two facts. Next thing to do is ask him why he is lying to you. Do not accuse him; do not berate him ~ just simply ask the question. Let him answer fully without interruption. Hopefully, if he can answer you, he will feel more at liberty to do so if he doesn't feel confronted. When he has finished, reassure him with your love. I don't know the specifics behind the lies; de facto, I don't know what he is lying to you about. I do know that you want to work this out. It is evident because you are asking for help. On saying that, I do appreciate that you must be going through a very troublesome time, but the strength of your love for him can help you through ~ but (and it's a big thing) you are going to have to be the strong one; you are going to have to be the one that holds the relationship together in order to get both of you through this traumatic time. Once you've established the reasons behind his deceit you must then evaluate if there is a need for outside intervention, i.e. relevant counselling. This may involve you having to attend too, but it will be worth it because, obviously, you love him dearly. Good luck. I'm sure you will succeed as you sound like a woman of substance ~ just remember though not to chastise him because you will get further by being patient, understanding, and simply being his friend, and that is what marriage is about. We're not just there wife, nor just the mother of their children ~ we are their friend too. Best wishes, Nu
Have you ever lied? Even a little white lie? I bet you have! And I'll bet that you never thought anything wrong with it. Yes, what I'm trying to tell you is that we all lie at times. We want to protect ourselves from accusation that will cause strife. Yes, we think that not telling the truth will solve our problem. Of course, more often than not, we find that it doesn't. Get with it! Nothing happens "always." Yes, most likely your husband lies sometimes to avoid a fight. We all do that. More often than we care to admit. Open up the relationship by telling him that your relationship will work better if he'd tell you the truth. That you will allow him to explain his position by letting him talk for no more than two (2) minutes without interrupting him. Let him explain why he thought that he needed to lie to you. See the details of "Private Realities" in Meyer's "Marriages, Shack-ups and Other Disasters" or visit Kpopp's website for more information.
There is no "way" to trust someone. Once trust is broken, nothing but time& security will fix it.
get a new boyfriend...
When a husband or wife lies to their spouse the automatic reaction is that that spouse has cheated on them and it's because cheating has become the Olympic sport of Western countries so it is no wonder the wife or husband feels they may have been cheated on. However, if your husband has not lied before to your knowledge and has been attentive to you for a long while then it would be wise for the two of you to have better communication skills. Sit down calmly with your husband (no matter how angry you are) and ask him why he felt the need to lie to you and where was he that he felt he should lie to you. Remind him that there is a bond of trust between the two of you that should be respected. Hopefully he could have been to a strip club and thought you may be angry with him, but just because he lied does not always mean a husband is cheating.
Are you, not really your trust towards your husband has been destroyed by him. Some of us when we lie, for us to get out of trouble we cover the first lie with another lie, until you can't get out anymore. You have a reason why you don't believe and trust your husband, and it will take you a while before that trust can be given back to your husband. Why don't you let your husband have lunch with his friends that work with him but suggest to him that you want to join him so you can meet this coworkers his planning to have lunch. Stay cool as you can, you will see his reaction. Ask him when and where the lunch is, so that way you can visit them. You can if you want tell your husband that you want him to take you so you can meet those friends of his, but do this the day before it happen so he can't warn who ever it is his going to have lunch with. And if you can do this and his really with a few friends, then give your husband a little trust, until he become the husband that's worthy of you... good luck!
Trust should be there in every relationship. So, just tell her that you lied to her . If she considers you a good friend she will definitely forgive you and you cans still be friend with her.
Trust is earned and your husband broke that bond of trust so he is going to have to earn it back. Both of you should seek marriage counseling to get to the root of why your husband thought he should cheat and the counselor can give tools for the couple to work with and strengthen their marriage. A marriage counselor is not there to blame either party, but to get you both to see the weak spots in your marriage and work on them. No, you will probably not trust your husband for cheating for awhile because trust is earned.
Its time you realized that you can't completely trust your friend so distance yourself from him/her.
get over it, if he cant be a true man and stay faithful, then he isn't a man he is a child and no women wants to date a child
Othello was a play about a jealous husband that did not trust his wife so he killed her.
Be very nice to her and next time you have the chance to tell the truth, do so. Women are very fragile, like a vase. Treat her with delicacy. Soon you will earn back her trust.
If he lied to you "a couple of times" and they were lies that he knew would bother you, then chances are very low that he'll change, even if he means it. Change your relationship so it doesn't need trust in the things he lied about, if you're fine with such a relationship. Or you can leave HIM to clean up the mess he caused: Let HIM think of a way how he can regain your trust. My guess is that his promise that he'll change isn't new either, so unless he's VERY convincing, don't believe him. Sleep with his best friend. That way if you ever find out he has lied to you again, you can lay it on him. He'll lose you and his best friend.. Winner!
YES you can, this happened to my fiance.She lied to me about not having sex with with this guy during her period and i assumed the baby was mine.But we got a DNA test after noticing no resemblance with the baby and found out that she lied to me.We are no longer together due to no trust what so ever!! I never could understand why women lie so much,thats what hurts relationships....