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Fortunately, he does not have to agree nor consent to the divorce. You can file for divorce on your own. However, planning for the eventuality that he will not be happy would be wise. You should make certain you hire a good lawyer who specializes in family law in your area. You should brief him on your husband's behavior but stick to the helpful facts, don't dwell on it and don't whine about it. Just get your divorce and the best separation agreement possible.
Following are some suggestions about how to deal with a narcissist. Perhaps they will help you in your future dealings with him.
First, you should read up on the disorder. There are dozens of good websites sponsored by well known hospitals and other respected institutions that sponsor web pages devoted to Narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder. Narcissistic behavior is predictable. If you have a good understanding of narcissism you will have the tools to deal with it more constructively. Here are a few pointers:
- Keep your distance- don't get too close and do not let them into your personal life. Do not share any personal information to the extent possible.
- Be practical about the disorder- you won't change them so step back whenever their narcissistic behavior rises to the surface.
- Avoid conflict generally, but
- Define some limits- in some cases by not responding to inappropriate behavior you reinforce it- for example: if you must have continued exposure to the narcissist do not allow him/her to "tell you off", raise their voice at you, or treat you with disrespect.
- Do not try to argue or reason with them- your winning or convincing is counter to their world view- they will not allow it.
- Gain more understanding to enable you to work as constructively as possible.
- Maintain your own social contacts so that you can minimize the time you have to spend with the narcissist.
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There are lots of ways to end a relationship if that is what you want. It would be easier and more honest to end it yourself. Most relationships end because one or both parties are no longer willing to work at it or when one partner causes the other more pain than they are able or willing to forgive. So, if you really want to make him leave you it will take enough prolonged meanness on your part to make him give up and go; or one big act so hurtful he can't or won't forgive it. While you're still in the planning stage, remember that we all reap what we sow.
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Should you leave your husband for the man you've fallen in love with?
no! what is your husband doing to make you want to leave!
What is a narcissistic mans attitude toward sex with women?
get what u want, then leave
When I tell my narcissistic husband that I never want to be with him again what do you think he will do?
Beat you with a shoe and tie you to a bed.
Why are you so depressed after leaving your narcissistic fiance?
Because they have been wired to tell you everything you want to hear so that they can be admired. That is why it is so hard to leave them. They make you want to love them.
Why wont your narcissistic husband let you go?
The usual response of a narcissistic husband is to not want his wife to leave - because he can't imagine the thought or image in his head of any other guy being intimate with her, in any way. It is a big problem, on his part. Your task is to ask the quesiton, "Am I better off with him or without him?". The answer to this question should drive your actions (rather than any guilt feelings you may have about what your husband is left to deal with).
How do you make it easy to leave your husband?
Before you plan this make sure that this is what you wanted to do. If you really want to leave your husband, tell him face to face, then find a lawyer that can handle your case, means divorce lawyer. If this is what you wanted..
How do you tell her to leave her husband?
Talk to her about your views that you want this. She might agree upon that and leave her husband. It depends on her and it is her take on this.
I want to leave my husband but he doesn't want me to?
Have you thought of seeing a marriage councilor???
Husband wants a divorce in Texas Wife does not want to leave her home?
Then the husband should move out.
What to do when you want to leave your husband who is a cheater and abusive to you but he has no where to go and you feel bad for him but he is bringing you down and you want him to leave?
You reach out for help, and you go.
Why cant you leave your husband if you know it isn't working out?
Because you want to be miserable.
How do you make a horrible husband nice?
You don't. People are who they are and when you married this man he was who he was. You can't change people if they don't want to change. The best you can do is get counseling for the two of you or leave him.
