How do you take a girls virginity without it hurting?

Answer 1

When having sex, or loosing your virginity it will always hurt at the very begining.

There is no way that it won't hurt.

but after awhile you'll get use to it and most proberly start enjoying it.

I was 12 when i lost my virginity and it hurt like a son of a......

But now at the age of 21 i am completely use to it and me and my boyfriend have alot of "fun" when we are in bed.

Well i hope this helped you..

P.s if your like 12 or something you shouldn't be worrying about it now, you still have your whole entire life ahead of you and besides, you want it to be really special with that guy so make sure you's take your time with this sort of thing.

- Allice xx

Answer 2

If you are about to take a girl's virginity you have to pay attention to numerous things. I made this summary for all those guys, men and boys who might get into this situation.

In order to make things the least unpleasant for her it is very important to make her feel safe and comfortable. This includes:

-wearing a condom to avoid unwanted pregnancy and STDs (since she is a virgin this may seem lesser important for you but it means a lot to her)

-finding the ideal place and time where and when both of you can completely relax without having to listen to closing footsteps, or having to worry about bleeding the sheets (however you may put some old towels under her)

-ensuring her that you do love her and you will do whatever you have to in order to make things go better for her

After these you can start going more intimate. The key word here is "slow". This can not be emphasized enough. The worst that you can do is to literally jump into her thinking that if you do it quickly she will forget the pain faster. This is absolutely false.

First start by embracing and kissing her. Meanwhile you can use your hands to explore and stimulate her body, especially her breasts, waist, thighs and buttocks. Try finding her erogene zones. Many girls are sensitive behind their ears so you may try kissing gently there too. Try to find other areas of pleasure too.

Now you can start undressing her. If you aren't familiar with girly clothes then ask her for help. Meanwhile do not forget to admire her. Most girls are not satisfied with their looks, so if you can make her think that she is totally gorgeous, then you can relieve her from another stress. Praise her from top to toe including all her body parts. If this makes her feel easier you may also get naked simultaneously.

So both of you are naked. Take your time and let your eyes and hands explore each other's bodies including but not limited to the genital areas. It is also advised for boys to play around a little with her private, since when aroused, it lubricates itself and because of the increased bloodflow, the penetration will be much easier. It is also a great time to perform a cunnilingus for her if you know how to do it. By doing so you firstly assure her of your care and attention, secondly arouse her enough to make the following things less painful and lastly if she reaches orgasm then it will partially "balance" the pain you will cause.

Now for the penetration itself. You should choose a good position. The best would be the well-known "Cowgirl" pose, where she sits on you facing your chest. This way she will have full control of the depth, speed, force and so on, and both of you will clearly see each other. This pose also grants you full vision of her body in case your penis wouldn't be as hard as desired. If she doesn't want to take the upper position you may try the classic "Missionary" pose. For the few of you who are not familiar with the term it means that she lays on her back and you lay on her supporting youself on your arms. Do not put your weight on her chest, that would be more than uncomfortable for her. In this way you will be granted full control.

Either way, it is very important that the actual penetration is as slow and gentle as possible. When her hymen breaks, the caution should not end because her vagina is so tight, that your penis would certainly stretch it out too fastly, if you just pushed it in all the way. So keep advancing gently and slowly, and continuously watch her face for feedback. If you are completely inside her or you reached the bottom of her vagina, the keep this pose for a minute or so to let her fully accommodate you.

Only after this should you start the pumping movement, of course starting slowly and if she likes it then you may accelerate gradually. If you are closing to orgasm then do not hesitate to do so. Especially if you made her orgasm beforehand. But only if you are wearing a condom. Else as soon as you feel you got past the point of no return (where you feel that you will certainly orgasm within moments) pull out quickly AND move your penis away from her vagina. IF TRYING TO AVOID PREGNANCY & STD'S WEAR A CONDOM. A girl can still get pregnant even if you pull out in time.

After this the most important thing is the so-called afterglow. This is the phase just after having intercourse. It may be the counterpart of the foreplay. It is almost as important for her too. But this time no real activity is required from either person. In most cases the afterglow merely consists of laying next to each other, embracing, kissing, fondling her. The difference between the foreplay and the afterglow is the aim of the phase. While in the foreplay you try to get her in the mood for intercourse, the afterglow is for making her feel that you weren't only interested in having sex but you really care for her. Believe me, many men tend to forget about this part. Nothing (well, few things) can be more depressing than a man who finishes sex and instantly gets up, removes the condom, goes to toilet and sits down to watch TV or fall asleep.

Other things after sex:

-Dispose the condom in the litter bin. Avoid leaving it on open or flushing in a toilet. Also tying a knot on it is strongly advised to prevent any leaking.

-Get the sheets cleaned as soon as possible (possibly within a few hours) but also not straight after sex. Tips: blood is easily removed using COLD water and soap if not dried totally. But for the gods' sake, avoid warm or hot water since it will make the stain set forever. Getting semen out of the sheet is easier but only have to be done if you did not wear a condom. For semen you may use soapy water too but this time it can be warmer. A generous amount of washing might be required for both types of stain.

-Tell her that it makes you absolutely feel happy to know that she gave her biggest "treasure" to you.

-Do not fear to ask. This is valid for all stages of the action, not just after sex.

-Do not get lost. Even if you are not particularly interested in her you may still drop her a call or so. But if she loves you so much that she gave you her virginity then you should not leave her soon.

If you read this little how-to and did the things as written above you will almost certainly have a girlfriend who will be eager to sleep with you again as soon as she can. Moreover, she will be remembering the guy who took her virginity (you) as a kind, sensitive gentleman instead of a selfish brute. Good luck, boys!

Answer 3

If you are referring to a girl's first experience you have to change your mindset from 'Taking her virginity away' to something more palatable like 'being her first lover' etc.. Whatever happens, just make sure SHE is in control, and feels completely comfortable at every moment, as long as she feels and KNOWS she can stop whenever she wants she will be in a positive mindset.

-well there is no way to "gently take it away" just try to be as gentle as physically possible. but dont be too gentle that it takes away from the feel of it. but just make sure you arent POUNDING into her.

Answer 4

Some feel pain and some not.

1. Do it with someone you trust.

2. Do it because you want to and not someone else.

3. Use lubricant.

4. Find a position you're comfortable with.

5. Don't rush.

so better enjoy it than to endure the pain you'll feel.. besides when you'll both achieve the sexual orgasm the pain won't matter anymore.. hope this gave you an idea..

Answer 5

To lose your virginity without pain, it's best to do it with someone you trust and ask them to be gentle with you. There's honestlly not many ways other than using lubricant.

Answer 6

simple,do it yourself!

Answer 7

you don't.