Discipline them with time-outs and spanking.
Oh honey, there are plenty of videos out there discussing the pros and cons of spanking. Just search for titles like "Spanking: To Swat or Not?" or "The Great Spanking Debate: Discipline or Damage?" But remember, there's no one-size-fits-all approach to parenting, so take those videos with a grain of salt and use your own judgment.
"Spanking" a child isn't considered Corporal Punishment....in any State of the Union, a Parent has the right to discipline their child by Spanking them, this however, does not include abusive behavior.
It depends on what you did and your age. It also depends on who is doing the spanking. I, personally, do not believe that anyone other than parents should spank a child. A good test of whether spanking would be effective would be to ask you which form of discipline you would choose if you could. If you say being grounded, chances are that you are still of an age where spanking would be effective. If you would rather take the spanking, then chances are you have become too old to be spanked and grounding is the way to go. Spanking is not wrong or immoral. It does not do mental or emotional harm to the child. Children learn obedience and respect from such discipline. However, spanking should never be confused with a beating. What you are spanked with should be considered. I would recommend parents not use their hands, which should always bring love and comfort. Neither would I use anything that could break the skin. Spanking should not leave bruising in any form and should never be on any part of the body except the buttocks or palm of the hand. The spanking should be in private and not cause embarrassment or humiliation, such as spanking in the nude or in front of viewers. If parents are consistent in both their love and discipline, spanking is rarely, if ever, necessary, but again, it all depends on you.
In Hawaii, it is not explicitly illegal to spank a child with a belt as a form of discipline. However, it is important to note that excessive or abusive physical discipline can still be considered child abuse under Hawaii law. Parents should always consider positive and non-violent discipline methods.
Spanking is a form of discipline that involves a controlled open-handed strike to a child's buttocks, whereas hitting typically refers to using physical force to strike a child in a more uncontrolled or aggressive manner. Spanking is a controversial form of discipline that some may view as a more acceptable method compared to hitting, which can be seen as abusive or harmful.
The parent can stop hitting the child at any age. A parent is permitted to discipline a child by spanking until they reach the age of majority. If a parent hits the child outside of the discipline exception, it is battery. The line between battery and discipline is murky and varies by state.
You either spank you child or you don't. I personally don't belive in spanking. It is the lazy way for parents to discipline their kids. As a device to heighten sexual arousal in consenting adults however, it has it's place.
"Children should never receive less protection than adults. . . [we must] put an end to adult justification of violence against children, whether accepted as 'tradition' or disguised as 'discipline'."Paulo Sergio Pinheiro, Member of the UN Sub-commission on the promotion and protection of human rights, Geneva, 2006.Another ViewYes, I believe a child should get the occasional spanking when it is deserved. Not a beating nor a thrashing and never with anything but an open hand on the clothed buttocks. The spanking should be administered by the parent at the time of the misbehavior with clear reasons why they are being spanked. I personally believe bad behavior should have consequences when time out's and other methods do not work.Yet Another ViewMany parents insist that they don't enjoy spanking their child but they believe it's the best way to change bad behavior. But what if there was a way to change bad behavior without spanking--wouldn't most parents want to try it? Interestingly, there are many ways to discipline without spanking (and without time-outs). The word "discipline" basically means "to teach," and researchers have found that positive reinforcement of good behavior works better than punishment in changing behavior. It's longer-lasting, more internalized, and results are quicker.
Try to stay calm and let the mother of your child know ( that is if your on good terms) to not let the boyfriend physically discipline your child. Express how spanking is not a healthy way of discipline in the first place. Elaborate on the effects of such behavior such as rebellion from the child, resentment toward the mother from the child for letting her boyfriend carry out these unsolicited and inappropriate acts of unofficial stepfather aggression. Whatever it is he may have a issue with that would dry him to think he needs to do that needs to be handled by the real father, but no spanking. There are alot of repercussions for child abuse minor or major. This subject should be raised to the boyfriend and leave it up to his imagination to come up with what they are whether it comes from the law or the real daddy-there are consequences. ( Maybe real daddy should evaluate why he's not there to take care his own child )
Yes, it is perfectly legal. It's just a choice of how you are going to dicipline your child. It depends on the definition of "spank". The law recognizes the need to see to the upbringing of your child, but the state will step in and prevent a child from being assaulted, even by his own parents.
A switch is a small tree branch that used to be used for whipping a child. These days, such barbarious discipline is disappearing, thank goodness.