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You can't stop someone from acting in the way they do unless they really want too. You have one option, and that's to be honest with yourself and ask yourself if you have tried your very best with this person and if you have some of the blame to account for as well. After all, it can take two. If this mate of yours is just miserable and verbally abusive to you then there could be many reasons: Depression (if they are on medications please look them up on www.Google.com and read about the side effects as some drugs can change a person's personality.) This person grew up in an unstable environment when younger. Some people are just mean to the bone. If it's possible you can sit with this person and say both of you need help (never threaten this person because it's possible they could become violent towards you) and always include yourself in the equation of the problem so they don't feel you are picking on them. Suggest getting counseling, but I will warn you that many men feel they don't need the counseling at all and it's the woman. Some men have a tendency to feel it's a weakness if they have to see a therapist for help. Women are more open minded and willing to go for any help needed. If your mate refuses, then it's time to hit the road. Life goes by so very fast and you sure don't want to waste one minute of it. Also, if you have children, no child should grow up in a household of constant verbal abuse. Be sure you know what verbal abuse is first. I know of few couples (that includes my husband and myself) that can't lose their cool on occasion and threw out a few nasty words to each other. The trick is, to see what has happened and apologize and then sit down and try to resolve the problem. As humans we all need to have a chance to express our feelings. Real verbal abuse is someone pounding at you over and over again, day after day. It's as damaging as physical abuse, and I would say worse in some cases because with physical abuse you see the outer body damage, but with mental abuse people often don't see the scars this can leave on a person. Abusers are weak in themselves and trust few people. They blame their mate and society for anything that goes wrong in their lives and seldom are honest within themselves. If this is the case then you are going to have to decide to just leave (when they aren't around) and don't look back. Good luck Marcy
I have that happen. You don't want to close yourself off that only works for so long. You need to have someone you can share your problems with. If you feel like you have no one you can go to
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FOR IMMEDIATE RESULTS: Say affirmations to yourself every night before you sleep. It will hurt at first, you will definitely cry, but in the any run it will help you. You will start to be who you want to be. You will be able to see that there is good in you no matter who you are.
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You can't stop the people who do it, but you can see that what they say aren't ground.
First find the root of your anger. Resolve that and you will be on the right road.
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Realizing what effects you are having on those around you is a huge step. Most abusers will not find their way to admit they are escalating situations into abuse. It does take counseling and practice to improve--it does not happen with a mere decision to stop. You'll have to find new patterns in living and that takes consistency and encouragement, similar to the steps used by Alcoholics Anonymous.
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Why do abusive relationships exist?
It exist because the person being hurt stays in the relationship thinking the abuser will stop. Face reality this person has issues and they will not just up and change. I would advise anyone who is in an abusive relationship whether physical,emotional or verbal get out while you still can, because the abuser is not going to change magically.
How can a drug abuser stop taking drugs?
by getting to a rehab
Should a victim who has been researching abuse demand to be treated with respect by their abuser in exchange for stopping their research?
No. And you can't bribe someone to treat you well. Either the person is going to respect you or they aren't. You can't say, "Tell you what, treat me well and I'll stop researching abuse." If you're the victim, you have no leverage. The abuser has all the control. The victim is usually not in the position to be making deals and demands. The only thing that will stop the abuse is getting away from the abuser. ~ T
If your wife keeps yelling at you to get you do do something until you get mad and yell harsh words to get her to stop are you a abuser?
yes and no. you should tell her to stop, but kindly . but whatever reason could possibly make her push you? That's the reason she could be the abuser
What are the ways in which you cannot be heavily involved with an abuser but want to keep the relationship?
Abuser of what? drugs or you? Convince them to go to anger management, or rehab. talk to them and try to make them stop.
How do I tell boyfriend's exgirlfriend she needs to stop trying to get him back?
you tell her "stop trying to get your ex back, its never going to happen."
If someone is an abuser and wants to stop what steps should he take?
The first - crucial - steps are to acknowledge that he is abuser and seek help. Abusers are usually in denial: If the abuser is also a narcissist (suffers from the Narcissistic Personality Disorder - NPD), this may be of some assistance:
What does the back do in Hockey?
The back in hockey defends. They stop the hockey ball from going inside the goal. Just like the goal keeper. But if the backs stop the ball from going to near the D, they are good backs.
How do you get your dad to stop abusing you physically emotionally and mentally?
It's not up to you to stop your father from abusing you physically and emotionally. His abusive behaviour is not about you; it is not a reflection of your character. It is solely about his own mental and emotional state. Your duty is to get away from the abuser, to find a safe haven, and to report him to the authorities. Let the courts and the healthcare system deal with your father. It's not your fault, nor your responsibility. Your job is to get out of there alive.
How do you stop friends eating your food?
Eat out before going back to your house.
What do you do when friendship becomes an emotional affair?
you try to fight it but if it gets out of hand u must stop being friends to keep ur relationship going
How do you stop abuse?
To stop abusers, they should be held accountable for their actions. If someone reports the abuse to the police, the person may stop their abuse.
